101

101 , just like the Dalmatians ... there are 101. Reasons, that is.

One of my very best friends, I'll call her "KP". She is a married woman, with a full time career, has three kids; 2 sons and a daughter and a boxer named Roxy. She has been blessed with a great hardworking Husband who I have watched grow into that man he is today (they were young when they married)... as we all know... Husbands are not "exactly" what we bargained for in the beginning. But hers has proven himself to be worth his weight in gold. I just love him to pieces!

They own a beautiful home; in fact they have owned many in their almost 13 year marriage. This girl simply does not get attached to a house ... no sooner do they get themselves into what appears to be "The One" and she calls to say she's "Just looking," she drives me crazy. I will probably die in my house, I get so attached.

Point of the story is, KP has always struggled with the decision making process involved with having all but one of her children.
Her "baby clock" reminds me of a Timex watch ... takes a licking and keep on ticking or the energizer bunny..."keeps on going".
She no sooner has her last baby and starts thinking ... "Maybe I should have another?"

We get together for these dinner and drink discussions and without fail she presents me with 101 reasons on why not to have another ... life's timing, work schedules for both she and her husband, the kids have certain sports that would involve dragging a newborn to, another mouth to feed is always a good one, the spaces between the kids ages is always a factor, Bedrooms, who will share , who won't... the list can go on and on.

I love her to pieces and hate to see her struggle so ... but the ultimate answer is deep within her heart and each time we sit I already know the answer; she will no doubt have another, but at the time of our get together, she just hasn't figured that out yet.

So as we sip our cocktails and enjoy a nice meal, I listen intently and completely validate all of her feelings because they all make perfect sense, and the truly do, she makes excellent points ... but once she's through with her "101's" (on reasons not to) she begins to vacillate and she begins this cute little rendition on why she thinks she should ... Now remember: I have sat across the table from her many a night over this very matter ... so I certainly know enough when to signal to the waitress to bring another round, as we are gonna be here for a bit!! (Tee Hee)

Back in the early fall we met and she was in the 101 stage AGAIN ... but as suspected, she went off the pill and tossed all caution to the wind and put it in Gods hands. This time ...Nothing!

Holidays approached & over the Christmas vacation their wonderful family of 5 family takes a fantastic ski trip together ... here is where she had some nice alone time, time to think and focus on KP and what she really wanted.

Surprisingly enough, this time she actually had resigned herself to the fact that the family as it stood now was perfect and she decided once and for all to let go of the idea of any future babies.

She was truly content with her decision and felt comfortable about moving on.

Well, ... my friends, she must have felt just a little too comfortable ... because she is now carrying baby # 4 and believe it or not ... get this one...now she is struggling with the fact that she had already resigned herself to life as it was!

hahahahaha~~ I always say ... be careful what you wish for. God is always watching.

I know her well, it will take all but a few soul searching days and she will be elated for the 4th time around!!

Best of Luck my friend, you are a fabulous Mom and have a terrific family...this precious baby will only enhance life as you all know it now.